Making Time for Mom

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I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, we moms don’t cut ourselves any slack. Zero. Nada. Zilch. We give ourselves no room for error, and we definitely don’t allow ourselves enough personal time in this busy thing we call life.

Can I share something honestly with you? 9 times out of 10 whenever we get a little extra money from the odd side job or the overpayment on a bill (it’s rare, but it has happened), you know where I think about spending it first?

On my girls. What can I buy them? What can I make for them? It’s always about them.

Anyone else like that? You’ll wear your ratty, frayed sweatshirt from college every. single. day., but your children will be wearing the latest and greatest.

Why do we do this, y’all?

I am not trying to shame or “mom-guilt” anyone into changing their behavior, but we need to take a good, hard look at how we are taking care of ourselves. If you are constantly putting yourself last, it’s time to reevaluate your thought process. I want to shout it out loud to all the moms out there that it is 150% ok for you to choose yourself over your children. Like everything else in life, this choice is about balance. You can definitely take what I’ve said to the extreme and become a mean, neglectful parent, but then you will have missed my point entirely. I would say 99% of the mom population puts herself last in just about every situation you can imagine. And that, my friends, needs to change. 

Self-care is a hot “new” term for taking time out for mom, but it’s not a new concept. Ever heard the line “if mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy?” It is 100% true in my house. It’s hard to be at my best if I don’t treat myself as the best. I am the best mom I can be, shortcomings and all. I am the world’s “okayest” mom. And I’m ok with that.Making Time for Mom- Why Self-Care is Not SelfishOne of the ways I practice self-care is with my beauty routine. Yes, even with two 5 year olds running amuck, I still make time for a beauty routine (happiness abounds if I can get 75% of it done before I get out of the shower). I love to try new things with my beauty routine, and one of the things that I’ve never been afraid to experiment in regards to beauty is with my hair.

I have had a lot of hairstyles over the past few years.Changing HairstylesFrom pixie to pony and everything in between, changing my hair always feels like it’s the one thing I have control over in my life. My makeup may not always be on point, I may not coordinate well from top to bottom, and my kids may be wearing two different shoes, but gosh darn it I will have good hair. 

While regular haircuts are important to me, I just can’t justify the cost of coloring my hair at the salon too. I’ve always loved experimenting with different “at home” hair color products, but the results are usually lackluster because of my naturally dark brown color.Before Using John Frieda Visibly Deeper SystemRecently, I’ve decided to accept my color as is and just work on enhancing it’s natural awesomeness. John Frieda Colour Care products have been on the market for years. In fact, I remember picking up my first bottle of John Frieda in high school and being excited to use a product specifically for my hair color. Now that they have been around a while, John Frieda has come out with an even better system for taking care of your color at home. The new Brilliant Brunette® Visibly Deeper™ Colour Deepening Shampoo and Brilliant Brunette® Visibly Deeper™ Colour Deepening Conditioner work together to infuse color for a deeper shade and are safe on natural or color treated hair (yes, even on highlight or lowlights). They are formulated with cocoa and evening primrose oil, and I am very happy to note they don’t have that icky chemical smell like traditional color treatments! When you add the Brilliant Brunette® Visibly Deeper™ Colour Deepening Treatment to your routine, you will get an instant deepening of brunette tones up to 1 shade without the damaging effects of traditional hair color. The Visibly Deeper™ Treatment is also safe to use on natural or color treated hair (again, highlight and lowlights included), so don’t feel like you have to wait to try it yourself. Like I said, if I can complete 75% of my self-care routine in the shower, I am a happy mama, and this routine is going to help me reach that goal.John Frieda Brilliant Brunette Visibly Deeper ProductsI picked up all of my John Freida Colour Care products on my weekly Walmart shopping trip, but if your store doesn’t have the Visibly Deeper Treatment available be sure to check too.In-Store PhotoI’m excited to give these products a try, and I plan on showing you my results over the next few weeks. In the meantime, if I’ve piqued your interest in trying these products for yourself, check out the John Frieda brand on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, so you can see who else is using and loving these products!

What’s your favorite way to give yourself a little “mom time” every day?

4 Comments on “Making Time for Mom”

  1. Well, it sort of backfires on me but with being caregiver to my 86 yo father in law, I crave time ALONE IN THE HOUSE. And the only times I get that are very early and very late — so although it results i a sleep deficit, I follow an unconventional schedule. And take naps. Yay naps!!

  2. Self care is SO important! I usually indulge in pedicures, but I actually need to pay more attention to my hair. This post reminds me that I need to make an appointment for a cut!

  3. I have used John Frieda for blondes for many years and LOVE it! And yes, making time for ourselves is so important…and difficult!

  4. We definitely don’t put ourselves first as moms (though my daughter isn’t dressed in the latest and greatest either – but that’s her choice!). This is a great reminder to do something nice – and I can’t wait to see how it turns out for you #client

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