Where We Are

Let’s talk potty training, shall we? I mean, this is my blog, so I do what I want. And here’s what I want to talk about: the current thorn in my side that is this epic saga of potty training 2, 2.5 year old girls.

For some reason, this is THE topic of discussion for parents when their kids turn 2. Why is this? What is it about a child being 2 years old that means they need to instantly get on the potty and get that situation worked out? I don’t get it. It freaked me out a bit a first, to be quite honest with you. I just really had no idea it was supposed to happen at a certain time. I mean, I know people with kids younger than mine who have already mastered the potty and I’m over here like ????? What????!!! I didn’t even know I was supposed to be doing this right now, much less when my kids were your kids age (my girls didn’t walk until 15 months, just to remind you, so I was REALLY not thinking about it last summer. AT ALL.). So I’m completely flabbergasted at those of you out there who have kids less than 2 who are potty trained. High-five to you, mama.

But that is not me. Not even close. We’ve been experimenting with the potty since February, but Caroline, who was the child most inclined to try it, got a tummy bug 2 weeks ago and is back to the comfortable familiarity of the diaper. Aside: People who keep telling me to potty train my twins at the same time, LAY. OFF. If you don’t have multiple children who are around the appropriate potty training age, then you don’t have any idea what you are asking of me. Just stop. Thanks.

I’m just to the point now where I ask, and if they say yes, we go, and if they don’t, we don’t. I have to keep reminding myself that I don’t know any kindergartners who aren’t potty trained, so I know the time will come. It’s just hard when you want to compare yourself and your kids to other kids in the same age group. The curse of motherhood right? Comparison.

It’s been hard for me to admit I suffer from that. Our little family is happy and ticking right along, so why does it really matter that my kids can’t use the potty yet? I mean, they don’t go to a daycare that requires it, so who cares? I’ve just got to remind myself of that daily. We are happy, my girls are smart, everyone is healthy, and that’s all that really matters at the end of the day.

I’ve got a great group of friends, some of whom have older children, and they are all so sweet and supportive. The biggest takeaway I’ve gained from them is that when my girls are ready, they will WANT to use the potty and then it will only take a few days of “practice” before we can say buh-bye to diapers forever. I’m sure that day will be bittersweet for me. Not because I love┬áspending my money on diapers (haha), but because it will be a signal that my girls are growing up. And I don’t really want to rush that any more than necessary. I am content with where we are. Right here. Right now. Diapers and all.


One Comment on “Where We Are”

  1. You’re doing the right thing. The girls have to be ready and be able to know/verbalize to you that they need to potty. Otherwise, a lot of accidents will be in your future. Those over achievers are just setting their children up for a life of stress and pressure to be above average all the time. LOL You are not alone when it comes to compersion. I do it all the time. Its a horrible trait. I thank God that I have Chad to keep me grounded. Love you! Once you’ve mastered potty training, I’ll remember to come to you for advice one day.

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